Thank you Kathleen and Chris. This adventure (ha ha) has been going on for a year now. My STBX hacked into my email and found that I had been having an affair. The affair was over in Oct. of 2009. He didn't find out til May of 2010. It has been a year , and I can say I am exhausted mentally, pyhsically, emotionally, and spiritually. We tried to work it out til Feb of this year when another woman entered the pic for him. He quit talking to her as far as I know, but he didn't want the divorce til she came into the pic. It was like he was keeping me around til something better came along. Funny thing happened today though... I got home from work this morning and found a vase of flowers, 2 cards, 2 necklaces, and a pair of earrings. Any other time I would have been so very happy... but when I saw those things I felt nothing. Now don't get me wrong, its not that I'm ungrateful...(at least he took the kids out and made some effort). I just felt nothing. My kids had picked out the necklaces and I was tickled pink by that. But felt nothing for the flowers and card he got me. Is this normal?
My ex wanted me to date him for 6 months at the end of which he would break up with me so we could be 'even'. He was convinced that I would fall back in love with him and so he could hurt me. The list of craziness continues, but its all part of wanting to still be in control of things I think. Good luck.