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Re: Here goes...

Actually I have been keeping a journal of all the problems I've had. I've written down just about everything. I also started everyone in counseling.

Re: Here goes...

I dont have much insight as to how it may turn out as I'm still in the process myself. So you don't have to go to mediation before court? I think we have to. I would just stick to your guns and not change anything for him as far as mediating if you really feel that you cant trust him. He probably wants you to do that because he is afraid of losing if it goes straight to court. Do you think he wants mediation because he thinks he will be able to manipulate you...rather than having a judge make the decisions?

We have been sharing 50/50 custody and my ex decided to sue me for full custody. I'm countersuing and we have a temp hearing next month to determine where our son will be living and starting kindergarten (right now he's registered at two schools). We opted for a Gal so pretty much the decision is being made for us.

All I can say is what everyone keeps reminding me...it takes alot for a court to take kids away from mom. He isnt doing right by them and is only adding to their sadness and confusion. Are they in therapy? Might be a good idea to have professional input for court as to how their being affected.

Wish I could say more but I'm still battling myself. I wish you luck!

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Yea, we went to mediation...We knew when we both walked in we wouldn't agree...He stormed out and then stormed back in yelling wanting to know why I had to stay there. The lady said because you left in an uproar and angry so we think it's in her best interest to be escorted to her car. He started yelling saying that I didn't need an escort so then they MADE him stay there so I could leave peacefully. It was crazy...
Actually everyone is in counseling...my 9 y/o goes everyt other week and then my ex and I go to learn how to get along...doesn't seem to work too well...lol but I'm still trying...
My biggest issue is that I'm scared the judge will keep things the same...I know he won't give the kids to him but I'm afraid of keeping things the same...

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I cant believe he acted like that in mediation! Wow!

If that isnt enough for you to get things set up the way you want than I dont know what is. That to me should speak volumes.