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Re: I feel trapped.

My only income is Social Security. With careful spending,I think I can make it. I might need a little help with food stamps down the line, but so far I'm ok.

After a 32 year marriage, ex legally should have given me 1/2 the value of the assets, but I got only about 1/5th. I had to get out as soon as possible because he was violent and settled for the smaller amount because he threatened me.

I got enough to buy a small place for myself. I did a chart to see what would cost the least, and owning my own house was cheaper than renting or buying a trailer.

If you don't end up with enough money to buy a house, consider a trailer, actually they call them "manufactured homes" these days. It is cheaper than renting and some of them are very nice.

Re: I feel trapped.

You might look at senior living places that are based on your income. My mom is moving into one that is just for seniors who are only living on their social security (not general low income housing). Her rent will be about $210 a month and that includes utilities. She is going to live there until I can buy a duplex and then we will each have a side.

Re: I feel trapped.

It's a shame that those of us over 60 have to look forward to this. But if the truth be told, you were doing all the hard work keeping the 'marriage' together this long. I'm ending a 28 yr. marriage because of his mental instability and his emotional abuse. He has left the state and this is the 12th time he has done this to me. This is it and like you, poorer but wiser you will make it. Don't give in!

Re: I feel trapped.

Hi Lynn,

To be over 60 and separated doesn't have any negative meaning. Just look at it as a new chance to enjoy the single life again, or to start your life anew the way you really want. So chin up.

"To Our Inner Peace"
Mai Bordelon :)
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FREE Special Report "Fabulous Life After Divorce”
http://lifecoachingcorner.com
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Re: I feel trapped.

Hi Pat,

You can go to social security agency and apply for housing because you have only social security for income; and you also can apply for SSI. It was not imposing when growing up they depended on us, then it is not imposing when we need help from them either. However, at the age of 65, you can apply for aids from government, so you don't need to go to your daughter if you don't want to. Best wishes.

"To Our Inner Peace"
Mai Bordelon :)
The Coach for Divorced Women
http://thecoachfordivorcedwomen.com
FREE Special Report "Fabulous Life After Divorce”
http://lifecoachingcorner.com
Blog Website
maibordelon@yahoo.com
520-481-1201

Re: I feel trapped.

Hi, I am new to this site and to the situation that I am in. My husband asked me for a divorce 2 months ago. I have been married for 17 years. My understanding is that you are also entitled to half of his social security when he begins to receive it. You are entitled to this until you remarry. Good luck.

Re: I feel trapped.

Hi Pat...does your husband suffer from extremely high blood pressure?

Is there an underlying medical/mental issue here?

Sometimes if there is a medical issue, they won't or can't talk ...

Try visiting the women's centre and go for some help...get away from the house and from him.

I'm not sure if divorce is the answer...but keep building your support.