I can't purchase other health insurance because of pre-existing conditions. The attorney thought I should just let it ride for now and wait him out. She doesn't think he will do anything because then he couldn't blame me. She said if I just packed up and moved there wouldn't be anything he could do about it. So far I don't think that is an answer, but ask me again next week.

I was happy he was turning to religion since he wouldn't turn to any therapy. But I NEVER expected him to use it as a weapon.

I'm just so darned tired of being the one who has to clean up all of his messes. When do I get to run away from home and let someone else do the hard work?

I know how you feel, after putting your entire life into this marriage and then at the end you are either given the shaft or given the $hit, it is hard to tell anyone that it is better to go away from the abuse than to stay for any amount of money or benefits, they are wrong, when you have zero and they have it all it sucks. Somewhere somehow once you hit that magic number of years you get to keep benefits. The income, we put in our years and somehow we end up with the short end of everything when usually we do it all.