I am really trying to focus on forgiveness & being a blessing to other's rather then seeking blessings from others. I have to change the channel when I start ruminating about the what if's or I regress emotionally. As for forgiveness- when I think about what my husband did I have 2 thoughts, either he is a bit anti-social or deeply emotionally wounded yet unaware, so he acts in behaviorally destructive ways. I am going with option 2, which in my opinion is sad. It helps me find forgiveness.
other things I do:
*Listen to inspiring music or read.*lay in the grass with my dogs. *do yardwork on a beautiful day *take meds-which has helped *dream of my future & a healthy relationship *curl up in bed & do nothing all day(ok perhaps that isnt healthy). *snuggle with my loyal dogs. *pray
I have become a bit of a loner & isolated myself from others. This is just how I choose to cope right now. What works best for everyone???

I pray. God is doing amazing healing for me. I could not survive this without Him. I read. Right now mostly books aimed at helping me to heal and move forward. The one I am reading now is Woman's Wounded Heart. It is the best one yet. Gives ideas on where we get stuck in healing and how to get through it. I talk to and spend time with my girls. Shopping for maternity clothes with my eldest daughter this weekend was a joy. I paint. I took oil painting classes several years ago, and just started painting again. Knitting. . .baby blanket, of course! I spend quiet time to let my soul connect with God to provide healing. I listen to music and sing. I browse at condos for sale online and dream of having my own little place when this house sells. I enjoy the freedom I now have to do what I want when I want. To watch what I want on tv or not have it on at all. I take long baths and read or reflect on how far I have come. I have a long way to go, but in less than 5 months I am so much better than I thought I would ever be.