I totally get what you ladies are saying. I have been there too. But,if I may share, the thing I am learning is to love myself.Does it take the place of having someone to hold you at night or laugh with you or protect you. Not really but it does give you to realization that you do not need someone to complete you (excuse the Jerry McGuire reference). Do I want a man in my life again? Sure. But when he comes I want to be able to say yes because I love him and not because I need someone to make me whole. God makes me whole, he is the one I need to complete me.That is the way he designed it, we are not whole without him, and when we are putting our husbands in his place it is the same breach of trust that our husbands displayed in our marriages. We are intelligent, beautiful, independent women. God has a plan for each and every one of us. If you are a christian then you know what I am saying is true. Psalms 139 says that our lives were an open book to him before we were even born. That means he knew this would happen and has made plans accordingly. God is the author of our lives. Let him lead and agree to follow. Don't go kicking and screaming but go willingly, giving him charge to do as he pleases. Jeremiah 29:11 says "for I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. "Plans for good and not for evil. Plans to give you a future and a hope.' I dont know about you but that sounds like a good plan to me.