He keeps pointing the finger at me. Again and again.
Not only can he not see that he has problems with the kids because of his words, his actions, his lack of... and it not because of me.
He has asked for half time with the kids, he has asked for the house, all the belongings in the house, to provide no alimony, no health insurance and all the debt in his name to be mine.
Why?
He is going to not only putting the kids through a divorce, mom and dad not together. But he is trying to alter their lives into something that is not in the best interest of them. He is trying to punish me for what he thought was a horrible life but will be punishing the kids.
Why?
When this all began he claimed I needed to be evaluated. I had a hard time thinking that it is not fair for him to say these untrue things about me. Why?The courts decided that we could both be evalutated. Now his lawyer wants to take it back and have no evaluations. I wonder why? I am definitedy not the one to be scared of an evaluation. Besides a very bad divorce I am spiritaully, physically, interlegially, mentally, all of me is in tact and fine.
So many, many things wrong, so many people invloved. Are people really as blind as they seem. I pray for the justice.
He said he would do nothing unless the judge decides it for him and points me out to not be coropative about anything.
Looks like another year of this and a lifetime after for the kids. Our life decisions are in someone elses hands now.
Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? This is what I ask over and over.
OH, May! It is so unfair. Keep us posted on how things are going. Love those kids with ever ounce of your being. If you believe in a higher power, pray and pray often. (((Hugs)))
I am so sorry, May. It just seems to get worse and worse for you. I can't believe a human being can be so downright evil to put not just you through this, but your innocent children too. I will be praying for you dear.
May your husband and ask for the world, but it doesn't mean he is going to get it. Consult an attorney and you will see. Make sure you say what you want too. Take care and keep us posted.
I don't see how the courts are going to give your ex all that he is demanding. Half the things my ex demanded of me I don't think his lawyer even knew he was demanding. Sometimes they are just blowing hot air to see what they can scare you into signing over to them. If you have an ex like my ex I would question everything with your lawyer first before agreeing to sigh anything at all. I don't understand how these men turn into monsters during a divorce.
He is being totally unreasonable. Sounds to me that he does need an evaluation and he should be afraid to get one.
Make a list of what you feel is fair and equitable. Stick to it. Give it to your lawyer. Give it to the judge.
Your husband is trying to intimidate you. Don't let him do that to you.
Dear May, Some people you just can't deal with. I would NEVER, NEVER, talk to him directly! That is the worst thing you can do. If he wants to talk about your children let him send you a message. The very best thing for you is to have that evaluation!!!!! MY grandson's father was like that and the court just blasted him! Again these men have been so disrepectful and crazy they actually think they are going to run the show. Stop the direct contact with him today if not sooner! I live in California a community property state and he would get one half period. Both would provide for the children and possible spousal support would be granted the spouse with the greatest need. I can't stress to you enough not to talk to him anymore. Go through the lawyers. We all realize your pain and wish you did not have to suffer through this. Protect yourself and your children.
Stay strong May...I think you are doing just fine.
He wants half time because it will be cheaper on child support payment. He wants all debt in your name but the courts won't allow it so just relax here. (family debt is a percentage...whatever the judge decide later on)...
He wants a schedule that your children won't like...but we will help you through it later. At this point, I don't think he cares much about their ordeal...but that's my opinion.
He wants an evaluation because in order to do all these things, he or his lawyer...will want to show that you are the bad one...or the one with mental issues. You are strong so you and your lawyer won't have much problem here. The psychiatrist will do tests that show these things...and he could come out badly in it..
Keep talking with your children. I went through a similar ordeal...and years later, all is ok.