I would call your lawyer as soon as possible. And document everything including the withdrawals made from your joint account. I would also make sure that he doesn't have access to your new account. And watch your purse, my stbx actually used my debit card without my permission and overdrew my account by quite a bit.

Wish I could be more help.

Initially I just opened up my own account, but it didn't take me long to realize that I needed a separate bank. He wanted to transfer money here or there and it was tough to keep it all documented.

Your son is 16. How does he feel about this? I think you should have a heart to heart conversation with him in which he knows that visitations should be planned. Choose your words carefully, but let him know that his whereabouts and his safety are important to you.

Let us know how things are going with this.