Dear TJ, I know how exciting it is to be getting married. It sounds like you are determined to go through with it. Have you and your fiance received any premarriage counseling. Many times your church requires it before they will perform the ceremony. Even if the baby for some reason was his doesn't mean you could not over come the problems that would arise from that being the case. What kind of man is he? Does the OW's story have any truth to it? If so he should admit it so you both can deal with it. I sense you are questioning in your mind her charges. He may be telling you the complete truth about it. Why would she even name him in the first place? You need to prepare yourself for what may come. To start a marriage trying to figure out how to end it is troubling. You deserve much better. You know what is acceptable to you and what isn't. I wish you much happiness and a long life with the one you love. I hope it is all you have dreamed of. But if he did in fact cheat with this women what do you really want to do. Nothing says you can't stay together and deal with it. I'm praying for your happy ending.