Dixie, my stbx is just like yours. It's all about lust. I have moments when I feel angry, but as it nears 5 months since he left, it is not very often now. I have somehow let it go. To quote a song I like, I believe it's the power of Christ in me. I was sure I wouldn't even survive without him. I am busy planning my new life without him. Of course it helps that my girls are grown and I don't have to deal with him. We are in final stages of divorce papers so it's lawyers talking not us. I hope that time will let you heal and get over the anger. Until then, vent here, we are all here for you.