Wow! Thanks everyone!!!!!
You have made me feel a lot better. I know this will take awhile to get through. I really appreciate the responses. I know I'm on the right road...one day at a time.
Yup..same thing happened to me. I asked for the divorce but I walked out of the courthouse feeling lost, alone, and just plain down. I was happy that it was over but I was expecting to be jumping up and down or something...anything but what I felt.
It's still a loss...no matter if we initiated it or not. Divorce is a sad thing. I think that maybe the people who celebrate really werent in love and didnt care in the first place.
It was a little different in our case in that our attorneys told us to go to the clerk's office immediately after the divorce to get the papers. There was no waiting for it to come in the mail. I think that was probably easier - to take all the trauma in one shot instead of having to wait for the mail man.
I walked out of the courthouse in a daze. I'm still in something of a daze, but coming out of it slowly after 4 months.
I know exactly how you feel. It just makes it so real and up until the point where you had to see the final papers after it was over it still didn't seem so real. I have been divorced for almost 8 months and I still don't want it to be real. I still can't think about it and I have never read the final papers again once they were signed and it was over.
I talked to him on the phone tonight and I still miss him so much. I know he lived with the last woman he cheated with and I know he cheated at least 2 other times. Even with that said I have loved this man for 34 years and trusted him with my life and I just can't seem to turn the love off or the missing him off or especially the missing us part off. Everyone said it will get better in time but it seems like it is getting worse for me. I didn't miss him as much a few months ago but now I just can't stop thinking about him and crying about it. What a mess this is.
So anyway, I know what it is like to be in that daze and realize you life is now changed forever. It sucks sometimes even thought it was something you might have wanted. I did not and still do not want my divorce.
I hope things get better for you.
Take care