If it were me I would give him the whole box of books and let him dig through it himself.

My ex and I fought frequently over HIS stuff. He is a pack rat. Unless you are were married to one you can have NO idea how much stuff I am talking about. Fights were mostly about him bringing home more and then complaining that "I" didn't make it a PRIORITY to make sure he had the money to work on all his projects since I was the one paying the bills. We lived well within our means, YES not much in savings but we didn't owe alot in credit either.

He was given 4 months to get his stuff off of my property (our house was going to be mine after the divorce). Couldn't do it (actually he could have but chose to do other things with his time. So the Judge gave him 2 more months and told him that if he didn't have it gone he (ex would have to pay me $500 a week till it was gone). Really ****** him off but lite a fire under his ass.

Most of his stuff he moved to a piece of property I own with my brother. I bought it with my inheritance so he had somewhere to store things under cover and maybe I could park in our two car garage (which still didn't happen). Made him pay a reasonable rent and yet he was still ******* Guess I was supposed to let him store it there for free for the rest of his life. It's been almost a year and I was thinking about not renewing his lease. Mostly because if he were to die I'd still get stuck dealing with his crap. The only child close is our 15 year old and I can't put that burden on him. I used to say I had to die first because I didn't want to deal with it. Talked to my brother about it and he said ex was planning to clear everything out so lets give it another year. Got an email from ex saying he would not be renewing the lease and would have everything gone by the end of the lease period. Whoo Hoo

Really ****** me off that those things that were SO important to him (more so then me) are now expendable since he has to pay to keep them.

I know had I not charged him rent he would have never gotten rid of anything and I would have been stick with dealing with it sooner or later.

Sorry this became more about me then you. Give him a deadline to come and get his stuff. If you have a Lawyer send it through him. Be clear and say that anything not picked up by a certain date becomes yours to do with as you please.

Good luck.

We are selling the place, and guess who's left to clean up all the $h*t Jerk didn't take with him. It's not "stuff" he's claimed as his, but junk he acquired and then realized it's junk. Like moving isn't hard enough already! The house isn't bad to clean out...if it was in the house it was probably 'important' so he took it with him. Found a few odds and ends in the basement-no big deal. But the outside buildings-YIKES! Don't know how I'll get it alld one by my move out date.

Becky,

I don't know if you have this business service where you live, but we have some companies that if called they come out with trucks and take unwanted junk from attics, basements etc and charge little because I guess they make money off of finds or scraping material. My neighbor and I were thinking about renting a dumpster between us and just getting rid of large items and other odds and ends that just sit around here. My sister and I are planning a yard sale first. Can you do anything like this or is it just complete junk?

Susan

Becky,
Sorry your the one that has to clean up his mess. You did make me realize that for ONCE I was almost glad my Ex was such a pack rat that I made a issue about HIM taking care of his stuff in our divorce.

Mine was a pack rat too! In fact, one of our most heated issues was his affinity for stopping at every yard sale and pile of junk on the side of the road and bringing stuff home. One time he brought home a bowling ball. He doesn't bowl. I said, what are you going to do with that? He said you could put it in your garden as a decoration! lol! In a way, it was kind of charming and artsy to me that he does this. But I soon realized when it started to pile up in all corners of the house and garage and shed and when he was getting angry that I was protesting, it is actually not cool.

His apartment right now is stuff to the seams and stuff is piled everywhere. It's overwhelming. The worst I have ever seen of him "collecting." I guess his new girlfriend must not mind...