The other I got a voice mail on my cell from the flea. It was him and big foot taking. They were calling each other "drunks." You can hear big foot telling the flea, he was the one that drank all the bottle of wine. Then you can hear the flea, telling if that was the reason she had drank half of the that bottle. It went on and on, about their drinking, I sent an email to the flea, letting him know what he had done. Asking him if it was an accident or on purpose. The flea of course got mad and accused me of making more of it than what it was. I told it was not my business, but that it was not a good message for an ex-wife to have. He told I was threading him and that he did not like it.

I was mad. It made me think if when my son is there for visitation if the are drunk or what? My son has told me they have taking him to a brewery where big foots son and my son get to sit there while they both drink. I will admit when we were together we would get drunk almost everyday. Since the flea left I have not gotten drunk. I do drink an occasional beer now and then, but not when my son is around.

My question is Am I making too much out of this? I know I can not talk to the flea about this, he gets all defensive and start belittling me and calling me names. I do believe he has a drinking problem, but how do I get it through him that I am worried for my son, without getting into and argument with him.

This really disturbs me. I hope you saved the message! You don't need to care how the flea acts about this. You have to protect your child. This rocks his security. Tell the flea you can discuss this like two adults or you can discuss it in court. There needs to be boundaries set in regards to drinking. If you both drank every day that is a drinking problem! I'm so glad you have realized that and modified your drinking. If you only have an occasional beer why bother? I was a child of an acoholic father and had a very tramatic childhood. Isn't your son seeing a therapist? The drinking could be a large part of your son's problems. This is not something to take lightly!!!!!! What ever you do keep the message. My grandson's father is so afraid because we have a tape of him threatening my daughter.

I only have a second to post, but I dont think that you are making too much out of it at all. Children should not be exposed to that at all. First for the physical and emotional aspect, but it also teaches them less than desirable behavior and can set them up for a lifetime of drinking too.

If your ex truly has a drinking problem and is in denial about it than your probably wont get anywhere with trying to reason with him. Doesnt hurt to try, but it has to be an addicts own decision to change.