You can do this! You have survived everything so far with grace and courage. Ask him to sign the divorce papers in front of the girlfriend if you can stand to do that. He will have to sign or she will get very upset. This may be alittle much for you and I would certainly appreciate that. You can't be that old so your life is all in front of you. I hope you will be in a position to seek some counseling as you may suffer from some form of post tramatic stress after this horrific experience. Let your family comfort and love you and you will heal from this. Just try not to let this taint any future relationships. This is not something that happens very often and I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Stay strong and we're all pulling for you.