I've been separated from my husband since February. Its been a long ride through the dark tunnel, and with no light in sight im beginning to become depressed and even more frustrated. I had been married for almost 4 yrs and with all the fighting we've done, we came to a mutual agreement to divorce. We have a 16 month old girl stuck in the middle but i felt that id rather just b her fathers friend and us get along than staying married and always fighting with no reconsiliaton. Weve had counseling and that never helped. I dont want my daughter growing up in the same enviornment that i grew up in. I plan to move to Rhode Island at the end of August with my daughter and my husband gives every reason for me to keep my daughter here. Yes hes her father, but if i left her here and moved away, the finger would b pointed at me for being a bad mother and that i abandoned her. Im not doing that to her. Shes my world. Idk what to do. I would like opinions on this matter. The opinions i get are always from his family and mine. I need an outside perspesctive please. Id really appreciate it!
There's a growing trend these days that it's presumed to be in the children's best interests that both parents are entitled to a relationship with them. Your move away would make that more difficult.
Dear Fearless, You are a good mother I can tell by your post. Do you want to move because this is where your family lives? Have you started the divorce process? You may find that you can not move without the consent of your husband. There are a few ladies on this post who have had to deal with that issue. It is always sad to seperate a child from either of their parents. I was very very blessed that my first husband was a wonderful and caring person. We were always able to co-parent cooperatively as we still had a great fondness for each other. I however always lived in the same city as my ex. I had an open door policy for my ex. He got along with my current husband also. I know this is rare and I'm still so greatful all these years later. The very best thing for your child is in fact your cooperation with each other for her sake. You and he must always come second and she must always come first. Either way my prayers are with you as this is usually a lose/lose for everyone. Have you gotten into the child support issues ect. yet? Gather your strength and if you can sit down and get this all settled for your baby girls sake. It is always sad to see the death of a marriage. We are all here for you.