Two people that I work with I believe are having an affair. Both of them are married. The man has 2 young children at home. The woman is also married but I don't think she has any children.
We all sit together in an open space, and they slide their chairs from one computer or the other to be next to each other and whisper in secret. One will get up for a break and a few moments later the other will causally follow. Same thing at lunch. The comments every one can hear are filled with "secret messages" to each other. Like she came into work and said, I couldn't sleep at all last night. He laughed and said, I'm sorry, but it's really not my fault.
I think about his wife and children and they will suffer if she ever finds out. I've tried to engage him in conversation about his wife and to be positive about having a family. But he responds with they don't really do anything together. Life really isn't fun right now because the babies are so young ect. and believe it or not, it seems like she gets jealous whenever I talk to him. Luckily its a temp job and it won't be long before I'm out of there.
The flea and big foot work together. I never thought the flea would leave for her. The way he talked about her was ridiculous, he would always make fun of her, and to my surprise he is with her. I wish I could tell you what to do but most men will talk ill about their wives just to justify the affair. I am really sorry you are in the middle of this, it must be really hard to see them doing their thing.
Dear Teresa, I am really sadden about this story. These two sound like something is going on to me! They will eventually get caught or it will just die out. Meanwhile we have little children caught in the cross fire. You might tell them about what happened to you and how your ex is having to pay,pay,pay. You might mention how your husband thought no one knew but everyone knew and how he thought he could have his cake and eat it to. Let them know how it destroyed everyones lives and the impact on the kids. Let him know about not living with the kids and fighting it out in court. Just kind of telling them your story if you feel that is not to personal. This will help drop a hint that you suspect something and what can come of it.