Teresa is right. Sometimes the key thing is to wait. Even God tells us to wait and stand strong... not to let anger or pain rush us into something. Even God needs time to work things out for us as well. Everything in it's time. I sure learned this throughout my divorce. It takes time to heal, time to think, time to work on solutions, time to overcome blaming ourselves, etc. Don't rush court as Teresa has stated. Waiting does not mean just sitting still and doing nothing, but it does me taking time to let some things work out without your own pushing.