I agree. Enjoy the trip. Just watch your heart so that you don't fall to soon into another relationship. The months apart should be good, as you said they will help you get back to being just "you". They will also help both of you determine if what you have is worth going after when he returns. But by all means enjoy the trip, have a great time, you deserve it after what you've been through. As long as you are careful not to get in to deep, and since he knows your story, a little fun can't hurt and it just might help a lot. I feel that if I met someone, even just as a male friend, it would help me get over my husband. After 33 years, it is just so hard to even think about another man.

Very normal...
I, unlike my husband, can NOT even "think" about talking to another man..friend or not..
I Respect myself enough, to know my body, and respect myself giving my body TIME to heal; I'll know when I AM Ready..

And whatever HE is doing, lying to me...
He will have to look in the mirror, not me:)

If you "act" like this other girl is NOT a "factor", he will lose interest in her!!.. or should...

prior, I found out about my husbands "friend"
nights at casino with her.. I made it such a BIGDEAL.. and his jerky ass, "are it up", and he KEPT hurting me, by Allowing her into OUR lives..

once I saw her picture, and made fun of HIM.. and I even said to her hey lets go out...

He LOST ALLLLLL interest, in her (what he THOUGHT he had over my shoulders/head)..
I know its sick and childish..

but the more you seem to care, and focus on this particular girl, the more he is going to "be with her"...

@least thats how most "males" are.. so I heard..from my girlfriends...
It's unthinkable how our "husbands" can betray our love... they are SUPPOSE to be the wives BESTFRIEND, Not just husband..
But yes... and I am a woman, but my assumption is: My husband has MAJOR ego issues; hence: the TRASH he was with.. his "friend" who was a female..

well like I said, when I started to NOT care, and even made fun of him, because she looks like trash and sh*t.. boy oh boy did his face turn red, and he LOST ALL INTEREST in that 'POWER', that sick and twisted power he THOUGHT (and did at one time) have with me, regarding this "side-kick" friend..*****:( who would apparently endulge him and think it was funny to sneak around and go out with MY husband..
nice huh?

girl, just act like you do NOT care..
you will probably see a dramatic change, once "her" name stops coming out of your mouth...

it's sad, but I just wanted to share this valuable lesson I learned.
my husband even saw me sooo sick to where I was throwing up, due to my pain and suffering, and how DISrespected I felt..

the ONLY thing that STOPPED it, was ME not caring, and me "befriending" this lowlife chick.."his friend"..

makes me sick, but I will never show him that again, my fellow wifey:)
hope that helped:)(:

You have had my worst nightmare. I have seen him on the road. I went to Home Depot and saw his truck and waited till he left to go in. But I have yet to come upon the two of them. Of course that is going to cause you issues. It's easier for me to move forward when I am not faced with seeing him or talking to him. To see both of them would take me way back on my healing.

I have contemplated finding someone else because part of me thinks it would help me. But I find men mostly disgusting mow. I will have trust issues for a while. The most I am doing now is talking to a guy friend at work. We talk at lunch and text some. He is a good friend, but younger by quite a bit...like 12 years and we have been friends for so long a relationship would be strange. But I do enjoy talking to him. For now, that's good for me. But good luck to you with your new guy. And hang in there!

It seems like there is very rarely a clean break in a break up. My 1st ex husband and I went back and forth for a year trying to make it work. Sometimes it is better just to level it and start from scratch. Both of you will probably go back and forth on this. I know my 1st ex came to me 2 weeks before I was getting married again and begged me to try again. At that point it is usually way to late! He was a good man. I am the one who destroyed our marriage. It was just to broken to fix. You have been so blessed to have found someone nice so soon. Many of the ladies on this forum would love to be in your shoes! In the end you are the one who has to decide for yourself what path your life is going to take. It is human nature to have be alittle jealous. You sound like a mature responsible women and I am think you will make the best decision for you. Just keep posting. Have a wonderful time on the vacation. It will help you decide your feelings about this new man.