Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement. I am determined, my brain is determined anyway but the heart is the hard part. One thing that helps me stick to it is when I really want to email him I come on this site and read posts and it just makes me want to stick to the no contact all the more.
The sad thing is when I think I am suffering the most and I come on here and read posts there are many that have it so much worse. I certainly wish there was no need for this site, but I am so very glad you are all here and that I found you. We are all stronger than we think we are and somedays I feel that way, there are others when I feel that I just can't do this anymore and again that is when I come on here and ther is always so much love coming from all of you it just makes my day.
These men (and I use that term losely) truly do not know what they have lost.
Amen to that Alone. These relationships are new to them and the OW. Real life will happen sooner or later. We have history which makes us stick it out longer. They do not and may not go the distance if it isn't as WONDERFUL as they all thought it was going to be. The ex's are far from perfect people which is evidenced by what they have done to us. The OW are going to get a chance to see their real colors someday. They have had to cut the assets in two so financially they aren't as attractive either. Just wait ladies it will all come to pass.
You will all get to have the last laugh in the end.
Sorry to say in my case the OW does know what she is doing, she has done this before. She is in it for what she can get and tells him exactly what he wants to hear. He travels all week so is only with her on the weekends and it is then party time for them. They go out drinking and out to dinner and he buys her things and pays her to let him live there on the weekends. She knows exactly what she is doing, he on the other hand has no clue. She saw an easy target and reeled him in. He was having a mid life crisis at 55 and thought the grass would be greener. But as I have said on here before, he wanted to live with her so he would have no responsibilities but still talk to and see me on the side. He really thought there was no reason not to do that. Why in the world wouldn't I want to stay friends with him. He actually told me I needed to grow up because I said as long as she is still in the picture I would have nothing to do with him, I will not be second best. He just can't get that. What he wants should be no problem for everyone else!!! I just hate that I wasted so many years on this guy and this is what he turned into. Ok that said, I am going into day 15 and counting. I have it marked on the calendar right by the computer so I have to look at it when I get tempted to contact him. No temptation today at all!!