Re: how to survive the next 10 years with the other woman in my sons life
Well, that's easier said than done in my case.
I have so much anger towards my husband and is old wh@re that I had to warn him, if she ever gets close to my son there would be sever consequences for her.
And at least i am not ashamed to admit all these feelings. Even though I allow my ex to take my son during the week, but I know that the wh@re then is at work and is not around. However if I could i would stop him from seeing our son full stop! I know how wrong it is, but that's the only way I could've paid him back for all the pain he caused me.
Unfortunately there's no such thing as being civil in my case, I really cannot be civiil with somebody who wrecked my family. And I do ask God regularly to punish her.
Once my son is big enough and able to understand everything, he will know the truth about his father. I have no intentions hiding anything. I will not exaggerated but won't be keeping away how his father cheated, how he lied, how he dragged me on my neck and threw on top of chest of drawers, how he threw us both out of the marital house and how he was taking my money and wasting it on the wh@re. NO NO NO! I am not going to hide it from my son just to make sure that his father looks good in his eyes.
Re: how to survive the next 10 years with the other woman in my sons life
Gerbillina: I understand that you're angry. I get it...but what does that have to do with your child?
If you truly love your son...you may want to take a little time and reconsider your position. It is one of the cruelest things you can do to a child to alienate them against a parent. Children have the RIGHT to have relationships with both parents. The divorce details should under no circumstance be shared with a child. Its actually a form of child abuse and the court is considering it now in custody battles...you can google parental alienation syndrome. It can affect your custody situation and more importantly is simply child abuse.
The type of behavior you're talking about can seriously damage your child, his relationships with you, his father, and everyone he touches in his future...including his potential future spouse and children. You can emotionally cripple a child in doing what you're suggesting.
If you truly hated what your husband did to you and your family, why would you even consider resorting to behavior that is he even worse than his and directed at your own child...why victimize him? You're his mother...your judgement is vital to his well being.
I do understand how angry and upset you are at your ex's terrible choices but please consider your actions towards your child. Although I'm not a huge fan, Dr. Phil has a book out which discusses things NOT to do to your kids during and after divorce....here is the website http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/242 . You really really should reconsider.