You are so right Susan. My ex's girlfriend has done this before. This is nothing new to her and she knew how to manipulate the situation to her advantage before I even knew there was a situation. She even told him she would lose her house if he didn't stay with her and help with the payments. She would tell him how good he looked when he looked like crap. She would tell him what ever it took to make him think he was the best thing since sliced bread. Her last husband was just the same, she slept with him and convinced him she would be so much better to him than his wife was and he got a divorce and married her. Didn't take long for him to realize his mistake and he started cheating on her!! Shew as shocked!!
I even sent her a text several months ago and asked her if she really expected these men to be faithful to her after everything they did to their own wives?
Right now she is making his life so darn much fun, going out every weekend. No responsibilities, just always having a great time. Who wouldn't want that, but the other shoe will drop and these men will see what they have done. It is just so hard to wait for that day.
The first thing I did when I found out is talk to a lawyer about my rights. He was spending lots of money on her out of an account I didn't check. He was putting things on a credit card I didn't have access to but then paying it with our account. The lawyer said it was totally legal to hide money so he couldn't spend any more on her. I could not spend it either and had to keep reciepts and everything else showing exactly what I had done and why. Keep copies of everything. Your bank statements from now and then later to have them to compare if he is spending money on her. Just keep track of everything and make copies of things you think shows some changes or anything suspicious. If you don't need them later you can throw them away but if you do need them it is hard to go back and find it. Just protect yourself.