The first tho you need to do is get a lawyer ASAP. My ex had bought a shredder I thought he was doing some cleaning up and getting rid of old papers. I never thought in a million years he would’ve been getting rid of evidence. But no Matt what you can still get it from the financial companies. Which is what my lawyer did....... I found out he was gambling online paying some pay pal account, had us in $150 thousand dollars in debt. He had the nerve to say the real person ( me) would come out. I decided I had to fight or I would’ve been left with nothing! You fight girl!
Wish you the best
Thanks. Gratefully, I had an attorney from the time I considered separating from him before. This attorney is great. Yes to the shredding and the secrecy.