I am very sorry for your situation. The same thing happened to this author, but had they not taken the step to file, things could have gone on much longer and gotten much worse:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1693393220

If your spouse is already moving on with their lives, and you keep hoping for a miracle, you may come to find out that, like the author of the book, they were being bled dry financially. Please be sure to think through the impacts that could come to you while waiting for a miracle.

Alice: If you get back together with him, which I hope you do not, have him get tested for STDs since he has been with others. Protect yourself financially and physically. I am glad you are seeing a Lawyer. This is not a good marriage and I think you are better off out of it. Best wishes.