My husband and I have been together for 21 years with the exception of a 4 year separation almost 10 years ago. The first separation was his choice, he found another woman.
About 6 weeks ago he decided he wanted to separate again. He has since been back and forth until Monday when he decided to tell me via text message he was looking for a place. Since he has again taken off his ring, is no longer sleeping in our room, and pretty much ignores me. If I try to talk anything through he becomes very angry which is nothing like him. This has been the case for the past 6 weeks. Now he is refusing to move out and says he is staying until we sell the house. The problem is that our house needs work, I just started real estate classes on Monday to get my license and the next 10 weeks are going to be very hard. He has never done any work to our home, I do all remodeling and what not.
Part of me wants to just do it myself to get it done so I don't have to live this way anymore. Another part of me wants to make him do everything because he is the one that wants to go and wants to sell the house. I think this part of me also hopes that the additional time will help him work through whatever is going on. I truly believe he will regret this. Nothing we argue about isn't fixable. It's actually not huge things at all.
I love this man with all my heart and I never imagined gong through this a second time.