Hi last week I let my husband know that I want a divorce after 21 years. He is very hurt, angry and felt blindsided. He has been unhappy for the duration of our marriage. I felt trapped and obligated to stay. I’m 60 years old and scared about the future and how to survive the weekend

Amy: I was also married for 21 years. My ex left in 2008. I was in my late 40s and he was 9 years older (now retired). There is a lot at stake in a long term marriage like retirement monies, the home (if you own one), etc., please get a consultation with a divorce lawyer ASAP. Best wishes.