I am very sorry to hear what you are going through, and both totally understand, and can relate with, your feelings.

If you check out "20 Years Gone: A Divorce Story" on Amazon and Goodreads, you'll see the story of another who was cheated on, and for most of the time up to their divorce, their ex continued attempting to hide it, even though the proof was extremely obvious.

Sadly, you are correct in that people who haven't *lived* it, simply can't comprehend the damage it causes. For me, I see it as an alternate form of PTSD.

You can read what I wrote to get me through my divorce on FB @ MadisonMeadows Poetry. Writing helped me a lot:) I would encourage you to start a journal.

Sam: It takes time to adjust to something like this. Many people with kids don't talk to the soon-to-be ex or ex unless it is urgent or involves the child, you should, too. Let the Lawyers do some of the talking, especially at first. My ex and I were not in love anymore at the time of the divorce and it does make things easier. I think he just preferred the girls at Hooters and seeing women at strip clubs. Good luck to the woman who is with your husband now. She will need it. Wow! and......the I will bet the guy she broke off the engagement with is probably glad she cheated before the marriage and not after! Make sure you get your child support. Some people have a trusted friend and/or family member read a text or listen to a phone message from an ex. Don't let him play with your emotions or tell you what to do if it doesn't concern the child. Get a Lawyer if you haven't already.