Maybe you guys need to separate for a little while. Maybe he’ll get his act together & see you are not playing games. If he does set his game up don’t let him move back in right away let him contribute financially first. If the separation don’t work ... then see if divorce is the next step. Every person have their limit on how much crap they will take. Seem like you are pretty close or have reached it! Good luck
Amy: I had a husband like this. When we visited his parents, I saw his mom did it all at home and I was expected to be like her, apparently. Since I'm old school anyway, I didn't mind too much, but it was more difficult when we had a kid (probably should have divorced him before we even decided to have a kid since he was never home). Well, if you do decide to divorce, get a consultation with a Family Lawyer who also handles divorce - go privately and don't tell him about the first visit. It may help you decided whether or not you want to go ahead with filing the divorce papers. It seems he's not mature if all he does is play video games. It was easy for us to divorce because the love was gone - much less emotion involved and our daughter was grown. The guys don't like to part with their money for the most part, so I hope you can get a roommate and/or more hours of work or move in with family if you divorce to help with bills.