Thank you for your reply. Our temporary court hearing is in a 2 days. I filed for Divorce because when I left a note asking if it’s what he really wanted he responded by not being home, and refusing all contact with me. I would talk and he would either ignore me or leave the house. It was clear to me he had no desire to even try to work on whatever he was upset over. A marriage takes two people and he clearly doesn’t want to be a husband or a father. I’m sad for our daughter who will feel the brunt of the pain from this. He does not have an attorney that I am aware of, but I do. My attorney advised me to stay in the home until the final divorce decree, so that’s where we will be. It will be an uncomfortable next 3 months. I try to encourage our daughter to have some relationship with her father regardless, but he still isn’t around. I will never understand how he can be so selfish when he has a child.
I am so sorry for what you are going through and especially for your daughter. I think "Peter" gave excellent advice and your attorney advising you to stay in the home is spot on as you will probably not only get the home, but child support and other things he will be responsible for after the divorce. (Health insurance, hidden assets, etc.)
Wishing you peace and especially at this time of year during the holidays. Even if he is being selfish, you can still make it a joyous time for your daughter and you.
Very sorry to hear your situation. As is identified in the book "20 Years Gone: A Divorce Story" by Dorian Wright, it would be in your best interest to make a daily log of all that is happening. Specifically document how often you are left with your children and what is occurring, on a daily basis. These details will help mold your divorce outcome and any custody concerns.