He wants to leave me and I can't go on like this. He says he is out of love and doesnt wanna see me any more. I'm passionately in love with him and I just dont know how I will be able to go on. We've been together 22 years married for 12 no kids. I cant imagine my life and future without him. He says Ive been too controlling. I want another chance. He says he's done giving me chances. Im hurting every minute. I love him I miss him and he just doesnt want me.
Every divorce I know of has been somewhat of a shared decision with both parties wanting to get away from eachother to an extent. But this is horrible. It's pure misery. I want my life back. He spends a couple of nights at a friend's and then comes back for a day at home not talking about things but acting distant and then back at his friend's. . I miss him and wanna touch him and hug him and kiss him when he's around. But he's too cold and angry for that. He keeps saying I will go and never come back. I think about suicide sometimes (dont be alarmed please). I'm really trapped and because of covid19 and some personal hesitations I can't go to counselling. I have no one I can talk to about this. Its just a stupid stubborn ray of hope (denial) thats keeping me going these days. But I cant face the truth. What do I do?
Very sorry to hear about your situation. The author of "20 Years Gone: A Divorce Story", by Dorian Wright (available on Amazon) went through a similar experience as yours, and found a way to get through it and even find new love. If your husband is shunning you, don't waste your life. Start anew. Many people are lying in hospital beds right this moment, just wishing they had the opportunities lying before you right now!
Buy the book, get the pointers, and take advantage of the new life ahead!!
Very sorry to hear about your situation. The author of "20 Years Gone: A Divorce Story", by Dorian Wright (available on Amazon) went through a similar experience as yours, and found a way to get through it and even find new love. If your husband is shunning you, don't waste your life. Start anew. Many people are lying in hospital beds right this moment, just wishing they had the opportunities lying before you right now!
Buy the book, get the pointers, and take advantage of the new life ahead!!
I’m so sorry to hear about your pain. I am going through the same pain. Our situations are different but God how I feel your pain. I am devastated. The best I can tell you is to try to be strong and not beg. I’m honestly doing a terrible job at both of those but I think it’s good advice. I see that I keep pushing him away the more I want him. We are both in a situation where we want to try and they don’t. I wish I could tell you how to make him want to try bc I wish my husband would. And I wish I knew how bc I feel so lost without him. We have been together for 15 years. Since I was 20 and we have 2 young babies. I hope your husband will come around and see what he is missing. Try to be the best you you can be even though I know it’s so hard.
I am so sorry! I feel your pain, I haven’t been able to stop crying for ages and every little thing reminds me of the happier times. We have two kids and they always ask where dad is.... I’m left to explain (age appropriate of course) when I wasn’t the one who wanted our family to break apart.
If you have any pointers on how to get him back please inform me.
Find ways to help others- if at all possible during this time of this virus, help the elderly. Read others' issues online (re: health, not divorce), and see what advice you can provide to them. Use the battles you've already fought and won in your life to help others.
Since my husband and I still live together due to coronavirus, I chose to be in my separate room, do gardening (that takes me all day), bake bread, chat in forums like this.
As far as the husbands, remembering the happy says is easier to remember the hard days. So, what would you do when the hard days or the not-happy days come. Cause those days will come. Men are insecured and need constant reassurment. Leave them on their own, and keep writing to use