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Re: How Do I Stop Crying?

I feel your pain so well. However, i was the one that left. It was a toxic, emotionally abusive marriage and after 30 years i was finally able to support myself and get out. BUT, the pain i am feeling is overwhelming and I'm sure is exactly how you feel. I am mourning the death of my marriage, the fact that he couldn't/wouldn't change for me. Not to mention in two months he already has a girlfriend and posted pictures on FB of them at our favorite getaway spot. It hurts like a death. I don't have any advice for you because i am sobbing at least once a day, but everyone keeps telling me it will get better and it just takes time. I so know your pain, i can feel it now as i type this. I'm so sorry, just know you are not alone.

Re: How Do I Stop Crying?

Paula, you have just told my story EXACTLY! After 34 years of marriage, he revealed he didn't love me. Off in his new sports car with a girlfriend and all over FaceBook. I am so sad and lonely. My therapist has listened to a number of situations that confused me about my ex and said: "This is all the same thing. He did not have the skill set to be a husband." So, I don't want the emotional abuse, but I don't want to be alone. If you find out how to quit crying, let me know. People also tell me it will take time. Well it's been almost a year and my heart physically hurts like it's being stabbed.

Re: How Do I Stop Crying?

Nancy, I feel this entire situation since it's just like mine. My therapist says I should "refute" the feelings by saying to myself: "That's over now." I do this, but what comes next? It's terrifying to me. My heart physically hurts. I wake up every day thinking, "Oh no, it's really true." This maybe doesn't offer comfort, but just know that you're NOT alone.