Paula, you have just told my story EXACTLY! After 34 years of marriage, he revealed he didn't love me. Off in his new sports car with a girlfriend and all over FaceBook. I am so sad and lonely. My therapist has listened to a number of situations that confused me about my ex and said: "This is all the same thing. He did not have the skill set to be a husband." So, I don't want the emotional abuse, but I don't want to be alone. If you find out how to quit crying, let me know. People also tell me it will take time. Well it's been almost a year and my heart physically hurts like it's being stabbed.

Nancy, I feel this entire situation since it's just like mine. My therapist says I should "refute" the feelings by saying to myself: "That's over now." I do this, but what comes next? It's terrifying to me. My heart physically hurts. I wake up every day thinking, "Oh no, it's really true." This maybe doesn't offer comfort, but just know that you're NOT alone.