Oh honey, I’m sorry. He’s found himself a soft landing, and is ******* with your head. Focus on your kids—get some family counseling, lean on friends if you have any. And lawyer up—find the most aggressive lawyer you can, and quick—before your ex has put them all on retainer.
I feel you on this one. My husband left me 4 years ago while I was going through cancer. He said he was already planning on leaving me prior to my diagnosis, but then I found out he was cheating on me and the timing was bad for HIM. Messed up thing is, we are separated but still act very much married, even though I know he's had a girlfriend for 3 years, and recently started sleeping with a female co-worker of his (he told me). I feel so embarrassed that I am still in love with him, and would take him back. He plays with my emotions all the time. We do deserve better, this is so difficult. We have a son together and I know it hurts him. If you find some good advise, please share.