Thank you so much for answering
My husband gets mad for silly stuff that does not have to turn into yelling or cursing sometimes...
That is why I avoid talking to him about something that will turn into yelling ....
Something Similar you mentioned in your story , If I do not agree with him he will yell at me At home just because I did not agree with him just because I am his wife he want me to agree with him all the time.
He tells me sometimes that I am never on his side just because i do not agree with him (we are never on the same page)
Does it get worst as you get older?? Or will stay the same ?
I am so sorry that you are going through this.
To answer your question, it does not get better on its own.
We did go to marriage counseling; which he would do if it was about "us", but as soon as our therapist tried to speak to him about his behavior (he would put me down and criticize me in front of the therapist), he would get mad and defensive. It could be "our" problem, but not "his".
I started going on my own, which made a huge difference. My therapeutic advice was basically "grow a pair" and "stop being such a doormat." I started standing up to him, telling him his behavior was unacceptable, my therapist recommended that if he started getting too bad to just grab my car keys and leave the house.
I got to where I could just stand there and look at him as he yelled and raged at me; I didn't respond, get upset or cry like I used to. I was able to emotionally disconnect from him.
Since our divorce, I am so so happy! I live in peace and quiet in my own home, it is fabulous.
Now, since our divorce he has gone to therapy and is taking appropriate medication. We are able to get along and do things together with our children. He would like to get back together, but that will never happen.
But it really took my filing for divorce to give him the "kick in the head" that he really needed help.