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Re: Feel lonely

Ahhh Jordan: Your situation sounds like a different 'kettle of fish.' Is he getting support for his MH situation? If it's not safe or healthy for you to stay in the relationship, then it makes sense to start planning your exit. You can, if you would like to, speak with him and services about having support workers come in to care for him/clean the house/prepare meals etc.

It's sad if someone has a MH issue, but doesn't mean you have to martyr yourself. We only get one chance at life. If you've supported him but he's now affecting your mental wellness negatively, it makes sense to look at 'getting out.' 'Better' to have 1 person than 2, experiencing poor MH. (And I know that sounds crass, but it actually makes sense 🌸)

Re: Feel lonely

Hi Selma,

I wonder if it's possible for you to socialise outside the home a bit more? It might break the routine/silence/dullness up a bit if you, and/or he, could have separate hobbies and interests? It might be healthy/helpful for you to have opportunities to get out and about to meet some new social circles? It might help stimulate conversation too, if you have new topics to chat about when you both get back home from separate activities?

Does your energy level match his, or are you more outgoing? How about going swimming/joining a book club/walking group/coffee and chat group?

Just a thought... 🌸