Thank you, I appreciate your non judgment and understanding. I have recently sough counselling to over coke my fear of leaving him. I did go to a divorce lawyer but I did not mention my affair. Maybe I need to go back and me room it so she can give me advise on what to do next regarding a divorce if I am scared of violence.

I am glad to hear you have started seeing a counselor. You need to be honest with the counselor, if you aren’t they can’t help and guide you. Seeing a counselor is a safe, nonjudgmental space for you, a person you can share all everything with.

Good luck