I agree with Kelly, you can’t compare how he acts at work to how he acts at home. I further agree that I would get irritated if someone I didn’t know, while I was at a store or wherever spoke to me in that fashion. My husband is not very attentive with me (I have recently found out why) and sadly I am in the same boat in I don’t like my husband at all and am thinking of divorcing. But, this is about you, if he can not see how those behaviors bother you, then you have to ask yourself if he is worth your time, effort and energy.