Betrayal really hurts. Maybe it has something to do with his self esteem after his amputation. Regardless it is cheating. How many chances does he deserve. It looks as if he has used all his chances and more.I was married 43 years. When it comes down to it the time together means nothing . Don’t wasted your life as I have done.
I was abit confused by your post of 43 years. Doesn't much matter as it's all so very devastating. I don't know your circumstances but it sounds like you are very hurt. It's all so very difficult wether it's emotional, financial or anything else. I've been divorced for 15 months and I'm still grieving and trying to move on. Most days are a struggle but I choose to carry on in spite of the betrayal I feel. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you but all I can offer is that it very slowly gets a bit better. There is life after divorce but I'm still trying to find it. My heart goes out to you. Counseling can help if you can find the right one. I have not. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you continue this journey.
You have a beautiful name!