No. You don't have to agree with him over anything just because you are his wife. You are a whole person with your own thoughts and feelings. I made the same mistake of changing myself to please my husband and in-laws. Lost myself in the process. That loss of identity went so far and deep that I am still struggling to find myself.
If you think that you are in an emotionally abusive, controlling and disrespectful relationship then you have the right to value yourself first and walk out. You cannot wait forever for a person to change or realize his mistakes. As you mentioned that talking to him never helps then my sincere advice is please live for yourself now because you deserve to be heard too.
Hope this helps.
More power to you.

Thank you so much for your output :)

Most welcome. I really pray that you come on the other side as a strong and happy woman.

🥰 Thank you

I am currently 25 years married and now going through the early stages of divorce because I am done with the psychological and emotional manipulation.

You deserve to be happy and to make your OWN decisions yourself. You do not need him to tell you what to do.

I hope you will have the courage to do so ... sometimes walking away is the only option because you finally respect yourself enough to know that you deserve better. Not my words but it's my daily mantra.

Good luck to you!

Thank you for your output too :)
It is a long marriage hopefully I will have the courage to leave him (we are both in our 60’s )
So far I am in good health :) but not him :(

It doesnt sound like the renters or property is really the prob i think its he feels power from making people wait on him, his time, his schedule, his voice is the only 1 he wants to hear its disrespectful to the renters but mostly shows how he disrespects you like your voice or actions are nothing in the big world