I would highly encourage you to do the counseling. Men and women will go seek attention from somebody else if they are not getting it in the current relationship. A long discussion needs to take place about the child and if the man even wanted one and his relationship with HIS FATHER in how he was raised.
Divorce for you ends up putting you back on the single mother market with a child which studies have shown is a VERY rough place to be. Having a child greatly decreases the possibility of another man being interested because of the relational stress that goes with dealing with who disciplines the child. This is a battle because as mother you will be in MAMA BEAR mode and always side with the child of any NEW man married or not.
Statistically divorces are filed by 70-75% ration by the women. I am not blaming its just the reality of the life we live. I know ( I am a man btw) that some of the ALMOST divorce causing issues with my wife and I were solved by some great counseling by a dear friend and pastor of mine.
Again do the counseling and forget the blame game. Give a man a chance to change and speak his mind.
God bless
First of all, stats pls??? Wikipedia probably
Do you have any peer editing experience or proof of credentials possibly a link to your stats
An abusive man will only support abuse men because they can relate and understand
But if you're a healthy minded man you will not be able to put yourself in an abusive mans shoes
Here is a fact : i can provide websites legally and govt sited for how much support for single parents tons of support
Housing
All child related needs provided
Banking
Employment
Child care
Child activities whether school or afterschool programs paid for
Medical converage
And parenting after divorce classes
I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
It does not sound like a healthy or safe situation for you or your child.
I can tell you from experience that verbal and emotional abuse doesn't just get better. It will only get worse for you. Better to leave now than wait and wait.
I waited and I have guilt about the environment that I raised my children in. they have little experience of what a healthy marriage should look like.
Better to live in peace alone than continue to suffer his abuse.