I am on a relationship with this loving man who is alcoholic. For years I did not care that much as I also loved to party, then the fights started, then we got loving kids (7 and 11 now). I have been so patient... and so uupset many times as well. He has been not drinking for a while and yesterday I realised he is drinking again.
My sister who also loves him yesterday told me " Another life is possible". But I wonder if I should still be at his side and hope for the best. He has improved much through the years but... I have been trying to help him for 13 years, I have been there for him emotionally and finantially.
At the end of the day, you’re not his carer. It doesn’t sound like he’ll stop drinking. But this is not just about him and His needs is it? What about you? What about what you want? Is this relationship making you happy or miserable?
We only get 1 life. Life is not meant to be an endurance test. It’s for ‘living,’ not merely surviving or ticking over in neutral gear.
You’ve ‘been there’ emotionally and financially for him. But has he been there for you too on an equal basis?…
Your sister doesn’t live with him day to day. She’s not married to him. No one knows how you feel but you. Trust your instincts :)