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Same boat here. I wanted the divorce. And I still do. And yet, I am grieving the loss of our family. For as much as I felt lonely in our marriage, our family unit was something I valued so much.
For me my biggest source of depression right now is being the cause of my children's pain and anger. My daughters will be 19 and 21 this month. They are struggling with their feelings and they are both angry at me. It feels brutal.
Can I ask how you told your husband ? That’s what I’m struggling with the most, and not knowing how he will react
I understand exactly how you're feeling. I've wanted to leave for so long, but don't know how to break his heart. Which is totally ironic because I have just about every reason to leave. He's had affairs after affairs, verbally abusive and controlling. He's trying to change but it's just too late. I want out, but don't want to hurt anyone. Our kids are grown and moved out. I feel foolish for not being able to just say it.
I am in the same place as the rest of you. I feel like I have finally made the decision, and have been suffering a migraine for three days now. I know it is the right decision, but just cannot bring myself to do it - to say it. Like many of you, I just can't bring myself to hurt him that way, even though for over 25 years he has hurt me and the kids (emotionally) and not given a care in the world. It is only now, when I asked for a separation, that he agreed to get therapy and is trying to change. I have been asking him for 25 years. How do I say this to him? What words do I use? Every time I see him he sobs and begs and pleads for me to give him a chance - I just don't have it in me any more. My kids are also grown, so I don't have to worry anymore about custody or any of that, thankfully. But breaking someone's heart will just kill me.
So many of us in the same boat. I’ve been married only 5 years (no kids, no assests) I paid my retainer fee on a lawyer and now my husband wants marriage counseling. I was all in to get out but he was just crying and I couldn’t find the strength to tell him I’m done. So I said yes to marriage counselling. I’m worried leaving him will completely destroy his faith in God. I’m not religious myself but he is a strong believer