Husband and I are in our 30s and have been married for 5 years together for 9. Day before thanksgiving we had a huge fight and have been separated ever since. We got into couples counseling and have had 4 sessions so far but everything seems to be worse now than before. He continues to say I don’t care about his feelings and that I am not changing. I don’t know what else to do. I miss him and I miss us being a family with our son. We just purchased our dream home last summer and I have no clue what is going to happen there. Just venting, any advice welcome
Is he aware of how you are feeling? Is he acknowledging YOUR feelings? I mean that goes both ways. Why does he expect you to change? He sounds like he’s trying to push buttons or trigger you. Maybe you need a different marriage counselor. Hoping for the best for you and your son!
Maybe he’s a narcissist? If you see an ending - it may be time to end it. I know it’s difficult having your dream home and so many expectations for a good family life. It must feel like such a betrayal to have your husband acting this way and blaming you expecting you to change. If you truly see this working out find a therapist you trust and see them personally by yourself. They might have some insight that could help you plan a better future for you and your son.