Just wondering everyone’s story. How long were you apart before you actually got a divorce? Also if you separated did you try to move back in before calling it quits for good?

I left and served on the same day. Was the only was I could stay safe.

Oh man I’m glad you’re safe now! I’ve been out for a month and just signed a lease for 6 months. I figure I should know if we can reconcile by then. Overcoming years of what led us here.

I felt I had no choice. Had tried for 27yrs. Couldnt try any more. Unhealthy and abusive relationship. Not physical. But everything else. Moved to a new city that night. There is no going back. My bf asked me this which helped clarify things: what would you be going back to? To what?