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Re: Reconcile or not?

I understand how you feel. If you’re both willing to get coaching and repair the relationship go for it. My husband has been dragging his heals for 2 years and runs when I pursue. When pressed he says we’re done so at this point we are finished. Everyday you choose to be married or not.

Re: Reconcile or not?

It may just be me. But I'm not sure I could ever trust someone after infidelity - no matter the circumstances. However, if you feel counseling could help. Then I encourage you to re-embrace your best friend. But you know what they say!

Re: Reconcile or not?

Trust is the biggest hurdle. We would have to start all over again. I don't know if I could or want to try again. Maybe just being friends is best. Or that's just me not wanting to get hurt again.

Re: Reconcile or not?

If you've just recently started spending time together, then just stick with that for now. No need to rush things.
See how things play out.

You don't have to be married to intimate to stay good friends.
My ex-husband and I are great friends, but I don't ever want to marry him again.

Good luck!
Kelly

Re: Reconcile or not?

We are just taking it one day at a time and really enjoying each other's company. But I cannot get past the lack of trust. I'm expecting him to do the same things as before at every turn. We are going to start marriage counseling and I hope that helps. I want to believe we can make this work but I know I'm holding back a bit, just waiting for the sh*t to hit the fan again.
Thank you for the advice!