I understand how you feel. If you’re both willing to get coaching and repair the relationship go for it. My husband has been dragging his heals for 2 years and runs when I pursue. When pressed he says we’re done so at this point we are finished. Everyday you choose to be married or not.
It may just be me. But I'm not sure I could ever trust someone after infidelity - no matter the circumstances. However, if you feel counseling could help. Then I encourage you to re-embrace your best friend. But you know what they say!
Trust is the biggest hurdle. We would have to start all over again. I don't know if I could or want to try again. Maybe just being friends is best. Or that's just me not wanting to get hurt again.
We are just taking it one day at a time and really enjoying each other's company. But I cannot get past the lack of trust. I'm expecting him to do the same things as before at every turn. We are going to start marriage counseling and I hope that helps. I want to believe we can make this work but I know I'm holding back a bit, just waiting for the sh*t to hit the fan again.
Thank you for the advice!