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Seek therapy, it will help. We can't always make sense of others actions or words but you can focus on you and come to some sort of acceptance of your situation. Don't take him back and look forward. He had no concern for you and now you have to look after you and put you first.
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement, Jane.
You are so strong moving ahead and please remember it is absolutely okay to feel. Considering how long you were together, this is going to take a while to grieve. I think therapy would help so much, if that isn’t a possibility there are a lot of great podcasts from wellness coaches that can help. I love the Moms Moving on podcast and there are a few that are focused on healing from infidelity. Best wishes to you!
Ooof I don’t feel strong, Helena! Thank you so much for podcast recommendations, I will absolutely check those out.
I think we all have to deal with the grief of losing the life and the future we thought we would have. Our marriages were not what we hoped and dreamed them to be so we are grieving a fantasy. For me it also embarrassment and beating myself up that I made such a bad choice in a husband and allowed him to take advantage of my generosity and willingness to look the other way for so long. I haven’t even told my mother, sister or adult children yet because I know they all knew it was a mistake to marry him. I’m going back into therapy because it’s a lot to process. Keep reaching out and don’t expect it to be easy in the short term, have faith it will allow you to a have a much better future of your own design.
Thank you for your thoughtful response, Lee.
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through a tough time too. Don’t be afraid to share, your family may have questioned your initial decision but I’m sure they would like to be here for you to support you through challenging times. Wishing you all of the best.
I too am having a tough time while being so glad. I am most upset that my son has to deal with his parents being divorced. And I’m so relieved to be out of the situation I was in. I have an educated & healing therapist who reminds me how hard divorce is and that she is so proud of me. Thanks to all for sharing.