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I knew it was time when I was told I could easily be replaced. No one should live being controlled, manipulated, lied to and gaslit constantly. When the person who says they love you doesn’t trust you or believe in you its time to go. If you can say honestly that you’ve tried and the other person isnt willing to try or make attempts to change things its time to go. And if there are no sexual relations another indicator to go. Ask yourself why you’re staying. Outside of fear. Make a pros/cons sheet. Might help
Thank you for this, Mabel. I have been struggling with this. I told my husband just last week that I think I want a divorce for the reasons you listed (almost all of them). I keep trying to blame myself or tell myself that if only I would have been better in every way, then he would have loved me more. But I gave my all, all the time, with hardly anything in return.
Get a lawyer. Find a therapist. Make a plan to leave. Trust what your gut is telling you. Not your heart or even your head. If your gut is screaming to leave….then leave. Hold your head high and know you dis everything you could .
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I knew it was time to leave the satanic midget when he refused to share the AOL password even though we were on the same account It was sometime before he was assigned to recruiting duty. My friends and family had warned me not to marry him because he was short and unattractive and that type tends to have a ridiculous amount of insecurities. I also knew it was time to leave because my new little dog couldn't stand him.:laughing: She bit him 4 times in one month and always drew blood. She was a good little dog. But my story does have a very happy ending. Trust in God, not yourself. I wound up with a fabulous man that's the complete opposite of the satanic midget. I've been happily married to my WONDERFUL hubby of normal height, high intelligence and everything for 20 years plus.
Wow thank you all! All of these responses hit close to home. I am working with a therapist right now but am still leaning towards leaving.
My watershed moment came after I decided to keep two lists. One for all the times STBE was mean, irrational, difficult, thoughtless, etc. The second for every time he was kind, caring, thoughtful. (And I don’t mean kind in expected ways such as bringing something from the kitchen when he was going anyway.)
That first list was long, quickly. The second still doesn’t have anything on it.
The thing is, if you are contemplating divorce you should probably get one. Good luck.