When you figure it out let me know. I’m in the same boat as you. I have very few friends after leaving my ex due to him controlling and isolating me. I just dont even k ow how to start.
I joined the gym and I also found some local social groups on Facebook who I meet with once a month. Also try the library and look at local events on Facebook
I’m in the same boat too! I started joining things leading up to our separation such as a book club, a wine club and a ladies game night. Check out “Meet Up” you can search for groups near you for things that interest you. I can’t say this has brought me any friends yet but it’s good to get out and socialize. All of my friends are married so I will keep trying new things to hopefully meet some other unattached women who I can become friends with. I’m really not good at this!
You are strong. I left my marriage of 27yrs. You are strong b/c you stayed for so long. You are strong because you had the determination, courage and strength to leave. You had the strength to jump into the unknown. I am with you. Every day is scary. I have daily anxiety/panic attacks. I got myself a good therapist. I made a daily plan and i write down on a sheet of paper my accomplishments for that day. Even if it just me getting out of bed. You are strong because you realized that getting out of the marriage was the right thing to do.
You can scream at me now because i felt the same was you are feeling. Terrified. Broken. Not knowing if i’ll survive. But i survived 27yrs. And i’m only 49. We are all strong because we saved ourselves from the chaos.
Begin to live a gentle life. I had to look that up to understand it. Read books about it. Each day is hard. But I tell myself being terrified and free is better than being terrified and trapped.
Sorry. Should have read it Closer that he left. Apologies. But i wonder if you can take this time to get a therapist and work on things. I still know you are terrified. But i wonder what new doors will be opened for you now. Apologies again. But. Even tho you are terrified, use it as strength to get back at him. File for divorce. And make sure you take and get everything so he is left with nothing.