I’m really sorry to hear you feel like your husband is breaking your dreams and going against what you said for 3 years. It sounds like to me he thought marrying you meant he could control you so for the 3 years he wasn’t married he was acting one way, then once you got married he showed his true colors.
It may not seem like it now, but it’s better this way. You don’t want it to be 13 years instead of 3 that this happens to you. He is not reliable or trustworthy and obviously doesn’t care about your dreams so you don’t need him.
Follow your dreams and leave him behind. Much love💚