What happened to make you feel emotionally unattached?
If it was your husband, did he know what he was doing to try and fix it?
Was your husband thinking he was doing the right thing, what he did was not an issue? - whether it be - make plans with friends without checking with you, or sharing information that should be kept in the marriage and spread the word, about you/ etc.
I am there with you!
Forgive and forget? I can forgive if they admit what they did and I have proof. I will Never forget any of it. It’s still not worth my mental health to continue needing to “babysit his actions now”.