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Hey all. New to the group, and I'm so glad I found you all. My husband just told me suddenly last week he was leaving. We'd been batting it around here and there while fighting, but he was suddenly very serious. This is right after both of my sisters, my only family, turned on me because I've had a lot of mental problems since we've been married and they said I was too much. Whatever. So, I'm really struggling with that, which he knows, and now he's leaving too... But I realized, I couldn't be happier! Even though I'm terrified and don't have anyone in the world - no real friends and just acquaintances - and I have to get a job and move somewhere all alone, it's better than being with the wrong person. Ugh. I can't believe I wasted such time.

Now, my only goal in life is to secure a job so I can get a place where I can have my two dogs. They're my world, and I could not bear to part with them. That's keeping me going. I have been applying for a million jobs and not getting one freaking call, and then I applied to one randomly and got an interview and realized they're a huge international company, so now I applied for similar positions all over the country, and I've gotten five interviews for next week! So, that's exciting, but scary. I've had a really hard time working since I've been married. Like, I could not take the stress. I've been in therapy and on drugs, but nothing has worked. I just hope I can keep it together.

I realized I'm very codependent. I always relied on my mother, and now she's gone. Then, I relied on boyfriends, and my two husbands, and none of them took care of me well. I need to do that now. I realize that with such clarity. I need to be more self-reliant and learn to make friends. I never, ever had true friends, so that's something I need to explore.

Anyway, glad I found this group. Hope I can help and learn from all of you... Have a good night!

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Hi. I read what you said and some of the things you said sound like me. I'm very co-dependent also. I've always had a boyfriend and then a husband. I was married for 18yrs together 20. I knew he wasn't right for me but I was afraid of being alone. Now I'm learning to do things alone, fix things alone,going places alone. It's scary. But I'm trying

Re: New to the group

Yeah I think when men are acting so disgusting it is better to be alone. So sorry about your family. Nothing worse than family turning on you in your time of need. They are truly sick to do that to you. I’m sure they have underlying issues themselves and aren’t entirely perfect and you know that, right?! Things will get better for you soon!

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